A leader carries burdens that often go unnoticed. That’s really OK – it’s part of being a leader. One of the burdens I carry is the realization that sometimes I indirectly hurt the relationships of others. Let me explain.
Not everyone will support and embrace what you believe in, or what you do as a leader. That’s reality. Sometimes these people will get angry and upset with you to the point they will not speak to you – and a friendship is lost. That can be hurtful and disappointing. That is part of leadership.
That’s not the burden I’m writing about though. The greatest burden and pain I feel is when people who are friends and supportive of me, lose their friends because of me. There have been instances in my leadership and ministry where people have lost life long friends and relationships because of their association with me, or because they support my leadership. That is a heavy burden to carry. Very heavy in fact.
Solomon wrote in Proverbs 17:17 “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”
I am so grateful for the friends I have who stay by my side, even though it has cost them personally. To those friends who have, I do not take your sacrifice lightly. Thank you for being Proverbs 17:17 friends.